How to Spend 10 Years Married to a Farmer
1) Be patient – When he tells you to pick him up at the Lone Tree Quarter and you go to the quarter of land that has the only tree on it and he tells you that he meant the quarter of land that had one tree on it when his grandfather was farming…well, that’s just how farmers think.
2) Be flexible – When he says that he’ll be in the house in 20 minutes for supper and you get everything ready and then two hours later he walks in the door saying that some salesman had stopped and that he didn’t buy anything, but time just got away from him…well, maybe he should be the flexible one. That way he can duck when you throw the plate at him.
3) Be willing to laugh – When he comes in the house, mad that he can’t find the nuts/bolts/tools/whatever he had taken apart and had set “right there” in the shop and he needs an extra set of eyes and then when you go to help you realize that your 3-year-old had “helped” Dad by putting all the parts in the handle of the floor jack…well, that’s just plain funny. Even if he doesn’t think so. At least not right away.
4) Be willing to change your view of norm – Walking into church 10 minutes early, enjoying the prelude music and visiting with a few people is no longer a normal part of life. Walking into church 10 minutes late, realizing your 4-year-old is still wearing his “rubby” boots and wondering if anyone else notices the smell of cow in the air, is.
5) Remember that he relates to new situations by connecting them to ones he knows – For instance, when you’re having a child and the doctor says he may need to assist in the delivery and he says something like, “But where do you hook the chains?” Well, he’s just trying to relate. Or if your children are born weighing in at 9 pounds 6 ounces, 10 pounds 9 ounces, 9 pounds 2 ounces and 9 pounds 13 ounces, and he calls the Select Sires rep to try to figure out what his Calving Ease score would be, but isn’t feeling too bad because he’s not breeding heifers any more anyway…well, he’s just trying to relate.
6) Throw out the calendar – Yes, it may be your anniversary, your birthday, Thanksgiving, what have you may…but since the weather is perfect for ______ (fill in blank) you may need to celebrate tomorrow or next week…or maybe three shindigs in one. Happy Anni-birth-giving!
7) Keep your temper – When he calls at noon, as you’re feeding four children, giving one a bath after eating, preparing a Sunday school lesson, trying to get some laundry done, washing dishes, breaking up a food fight and trying to find the wild cat that someone let in the house and he asks you if you’re “doing anything” – well, just count to ten…slowly…then backwards. Breathe. It’s OK.
8) Remember that cows and children are different…sometimes – When he comes in the house covered in manure from head to toe, yet the smell of baby poop makes him gag…well, isn’t that just sweet?
9) Be willing to love – Love whatever life throws at you…and with a farmer it will be a lot. Take each new challenge and turn it into something fun and memorable. You can’t change the weather, the conditions, the fields, so you may as well look at it with a light heart.
10) Thank God for each day
That is so true and obviously written by a farmer’s wife. Now why is it so appropriate today??
Because today is the 10th anniversary of me marrying my best friend!! Wow, I’m not sure where 10 years has gone. But at the same time it doesn’t feel that long. That grin was plastered on my face from 4:30 in the afternoon when I walked in the church door (on time to the minute) till we tidied up the hall and went home to change. My face was actually sore from all the smiling.
Colin’s cousin Vicki was our photographer and took a lot of beautiful pictures. Gotta love digital cameras because we were able to pick and choose which pictures to make black and white, which ones colour and a few in sepia. This is one of my favourites.
BTW did I mention that Colin and I will spend today getting ready for Market tomorrow and he will be picking 50+ dozen sweet corn -happy anniversary to us
Happy Anniversary to you both, you look so happy. Loved the list and yes it did make me smile also.
Gill
LOL.. My morning chuckle, especially because parts of it are real! Being married to a farmer sure is special.
I’ve seen some of Vicki’s pics before…. cows. She did a great job, but I truly like the subjects of the pic above better.
This picture captures the joy of your wedding day. Beautiful!
Happy Anniversary, my friends! May God help you find a special way to celebrate this special day.
We were actually Vicki’s first ‘people’ shoot. She did a really great job when you realize we were married at St. Patrick’s on Snake River Line and the pictures were done with the cemetery in the background. She was able to remove all the stones and make it look beautiful.
Many years! Many many more years! Loved that about marrying farmers. Very cute. Have a wonderful anniversary; just being with the one you love is celebration enough sometimes… ~ Elizabeth {http://eroosje.blogspot.com/}
Happy, happy anniversay to you guys!! How appropriate that you are spending the day getting ready for tomorrow’s market. 😉
Happy Anniversary!! Ten years really does go by in the wink of an eye 😉 The list was entertaining, but I have to say that a lot of these apply even to couples who aren’t farmers! I hope you have a nice celebration … once the crops are in. Wendy
what a wonderful photo! You both look so happy and relaxed. I have weddings on the brain as my oldest is getting married at the farm this weekend next summer.
What was there to be stressed about, I had just married my best friend and was starting the life I had wanted since I was 16 🙂
Now an outdoor wedding, that would stress me out completely.